Anonymous asked: (con’t) my own research, but I’ve been struggling with overcoming ignorance w/o being offensive. I found your comment about realizing and accepting privilege—not only as a cisgendered person, but as a white person. A light went off in my head to realize that, yes, this is probably something I am going to face and, yes, there is an appropriate reaction and way to deal when faced with anger. tl;dr, I have so much to learn but thank you for your insights, was exactly what I needed at the moment <3

For some reason the first half of this message got lost in Tumblr mail so I have no idea how that first sentence began. If you resend it, I can respond more thoroughly and more accurately. 

I am happy to hear that something I wrote helped you in your grappling with these issues. It’s a lifelong process, this deconstructing of systems of oppression and learning to acknowledge the ways in which we are privileged and complicit in systems we disagree with. It is also a process that is emotionally loaded, but I believe, based on my own experience and from some of what I’ve read, that the more we talk about our privilege with other privilege holders and the feelings we have around it. the easier it is to respond to anger with compassion instead of reacting defensively, and the better able we will be to do the work of challenging these systems of oppression. 

Anyway, send the first half of that message! I am curious about this research you were talking about. And thank you for sharing. It helps me to know what others find useful/valuable in their processes.